Laura Sophia
So is this a me thing, or do others do this as well?
When people tell me of an experience (or I read one here), I try to relate it to my own experiences, and if there is one, I'll share it. Does this annoy others?
Feb 24 at 4:29pmWeb
Show threadpinkmoonFeb 24

@livho

It doesn't bother me. Does it bother others when I do it? If so, please feel free to tell me.

Show threadRick OsborneFeb 24

@livho I definitely do this.

And ... it was something my spouse and I tripped over in the beginning of our relationship. It was pointed out to me that this can be seen as centering myself/yourself in the other person's narrative. Taking focus off them and their story.

I don't see it that way — I just see it as saying "hey look, I've had similar thoughts and experiences, fellow human". That is, an attempt to show solidarity and empathy, so the other person knows I'm locked in and not just nodding along. But 🤷 .

YMMV, I guess?

Show threadTürkisblauFeb 24
@ricko @livho This Story sounds very familiar to me and my partner. But I'm the part, that had to understand why he "was centering the conversation" (not my thoughts about it anymore) and had sometimes a problem with it, until I learned that this was backgroundet in how his neurodiverse brain works and he gave me the same explanations like Ricko.
In eye to eye conversations it wasn't that big deal for me.
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Show threadTürkisblauFeb 24
@ricko @livho
But it took me a bit getting along with it in conversations with others. Especially then the groupsocial effect hit me harder. Thinking others might be annoyed of his way of communication. Thus it was easier for me with people/groups where we were known. Something I'm - on days with lower spoons on my side - sometime still working on.
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Show threadTürkisblauFeb 24
So @livho you're not the only one doing this.
Show threadLaura SophiaFeb 24

@Trkisblau I noticed that I actually asked people before to do this in replies to my posts on this platform.

https://tech.lgbt/@livho/110529915535511579

Laura Sophia (@[email protected])

‪And if you experienced something similar or if you can relate in any way, please feel free to share your story as replies to my posts. It really helps to read about other experiences.‬

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Show threadKhleedrilFeb 24
@livho I had a nice poo this morning. Off you go... ;)
Show threadgodootFeb 24
@livho Common sentiment, one of the most liked post in ADHD memes: https://www.reddit.com/r/adhdmeme/comments/108al9c/the_struggle/
Show threadJaneFeb 27
@livho I will do this sometimes. It depends on whether I think the person is looking for a connection to someone who understands their experience, or just needs to be listened to with empathy. That can be quite hard to read.