Sgt_choke_n_strokeThe shopping cart is the ultimate test of a good person
I said for years that every second date should be to a grocery store. The first date can be as fancy and choreographed as the couple wants, but the second date needs to be to the grocery store.
You can learn just about everything you need to learn about a person from watching them at a grocery store. From how they chose a parking spot, to how they talk to employees, to how they budget, to how they prepare a list, to how healthy they eat, to how they check out, to if they return the shopping cart.
Change your mind on a product. Do they put it back where it belongs or throw it on the nearest clearly wrong shelf?
Or, is the person a shopper at all? Do they act like they’ve never been to a grocery store in their lives?
That’s useful information.
eezeebeeGen z is already struggling to date. They don’t need the added barrier of not ordering limos for their burrito and being judged for it.
It’s all about compatibility here. If the date thinks they need limo burritos then that’s important information.
Doordash, hyerbolically? Metaphorically? referring to the transport vehicles as limos
Every burrito that gets delivered is delivered in the best car it’ll ever drive in, miracles of technology, all limo’s
tbf, ime people working grocery stores like lost/cast off items like that (assuming it doesn’t spoil quick). the small game of “oh, where does this go” is much wanted break in the mind numbingly tedium that is working a grocery store
Staden_ スタデンI’ve worked in retail and I disagree. Trying to keep everything in order but constantly having to deal with shoppers messing stuff is frustrating.
I used to work for a winter sports store. Skis, snowboards, winter clothes, etc.
On slow days during the week, it was often just me running the floor while I had some guys doing service work in the back. So I had a day where I was alone in front of the store, doing price changes on a rack of skis. Behind me, the only customer in the shop went through every clothing rack and meticulously removed every garment from its hanger and laid it over top of the rack. When I finally caught on to what she was doing, she said, “It looked like you needed something to do!” And then she left without buying anything.
It’s been at least 15 years, and I still get livid thinking about that.
Fuck. As former retail worker, I’m going to be livid for the next 15 years thinking about it too.
u/CaperGrrl79Holy shit, I am the opposite. I had thought I wouldn’t make extra work for workers (unless I was in a hurry and it was a shelf stable thing, I will always put back a refrigerated or frozen thing where it belongs). But this breaking-the-tedium is a new perspective for me.
caseyweedermanOh my god I would just leave right then
I don’t think I’ve talked to an employee in a grocery store in years. They’re all self check out or 95% self check out and there’s online directories to find the location of every product in the store
The online site for my grocery stores are good for making a list, but never tell me where it is in the store. If possible, some store sites do a list by how you add it. I am a bit obsessive about arranging my list around where stuff is, so I’m not zig zagging.
I use self checkout a lot, but at my local one, they ad match, so I have to show screenshots (or Flipp app) to the cashier to do it.
Especially if they’re Greek and you go to university together?
I feel like that would doom any chances I’d ever have of a relationship. I park really far away, visit the bathroom at least once for guerrilla art installations, and zig zig across the entire store as I remember what kinds of things I want. Both major exes hated this.
Wow I would hate that too. I try to spend as little time in the grocery store as possible. I almost always have a list of exactly what I want and that’s it. It’s hard enough finding things that are on the list, never mind remembering new things to buy.
Most of the stuff in a grocery store is junk food. The good stuff is at the ends and around the back, with only a few good things in the aisles (staples like olive oil, spices, rice, pasta, canned tomatoes).
Walk_blesseDGonna be honest, I’d find that pretty endearing!
FizzUsed to be mine, too, but I don’t browse like I used to. I only browse the Giant Tiger (Canadian budget department store a bit like the old Bargain! Shop and BiWay before it) and Dollarama. 😅
M137“From how they choose a parking spot”
You no idea how much you just outed yourself as an american and not at all part of the “fuck cars” community that’s so popular here on lemmy. It’s fucking sad that was the first thing you thought was relevant.
Pretty sure they’re just going in order of operations? The first thing you do if you drove to the grocery store is park, that’s why they said it first. Weird ass little comment you’ve made here though lmao
Just what an insanely out-of-touch thing to say lol.
People from the “fuck cars” community are plainly aware that America largely does not have walkable cities and understands cars being necessary in some of those places, while advocating for infrastructural changes which would render cars unnecessary.
“It’s fucking sad that was the first thing you thought was relevant” yeah, it sucks that we literally would have to walk miles through pathless landscape, crossing over busy highways on foot, to reach our destination. And since, naturally, it would be fucking insane to do that literally every day, we have to buy in bulk.
Idk, sounds like you’re just kinda privileged.
Heh. My first date with my husband ended up at a pizzeria chain. He pulled out a gift card (he won at karaoke). Believe it or not, despite Weird Al asserting that pulling out a coupon book when on a date is tacky, I actually admired it. We’ve been together 14 years and this year is our tenth wedding anniversary. 😊
tomcatt360My wife and I use coupon books almost every time we eat out, and we’ve been together going on 5 years.
Never understood people who couldn’t put the shopping carts in the cart return when they are done.
pelespiritI hurt my knee a few years back, not going to return it if it’s too far away. There’s a good reason sometimes, it’s not a 100% judge of character.
I sincerely hope you never dislocate your knee and still have to go shopping.
To clarify, you were doing the shopping yourself? With the dislocated knee? Because that’s literally what they are saying happened. Not that they dislocated it once and then never returned the carts again. They say clearly below that they are fully mobile and return the carts now. So do you really want to stand by what you’re saying?
Well, I can think of at least two other interpretations off the top of my head, but I’m not really interested in explaining them to you.
At the end of the day, not everyone’s dislocated knee is the same. Doubling down on your position of “oh yeah? Well I got a dislocated knee, too, buddy, and I was still able to function!” is incredibly embarrassing for you, from my perspective.
I’ve never not returned a cart myself.
Sorry you’re such a butthurt loser over a person with a severe injury not returning their shopping cart to the corral. You sound like someone who is terrible to be around. Please never address me again.
inb4_FoundTheVeganThis is such hot garbage. Like I’m sorry but people stare and laugh when I bring my wheelchair to the store but then stand to reach a shelf. I’ve so often barely finished shopping out of exhaustion
Have to take a break after entering the store. Have to take a break halfway through. Have to take a break before check out. Have to take a break before parking lot. Take a longer break recouping in the car because groceries are fucking heavy with a spinal fracture.
Just because someone CAN do a given task doesn’t mean they can do it to the ability level of everyone else. Nor can they do it without longterm consequences, yes I can walk a few blocks, but I’ll be unable to move at all the next three days.
If someone says they can’t do something because of physical limitations, leave them the fuck alone about it and accept people struggle in unseen ways.
wiesonOr at least ask a passer-by?
If my knee was hurt so much I couldn’t walk right, I wouldn’t be driving a car either.
Not everyone has the luxury of not driving themselves despite whatever pain they have. There’s not always a passerby around, and besides, some people just fucking suck (looking at the driver who pulled over for my sibling when their face was caved in during an accident which resulted in like over 60 nose surgeries or something. Said driver literally said “I don’t have time for this, sorry” and left. Didn’t even call emergency services for them).
Groceries are expensive, should they just cost a $100 more for the disabled? Cause that’s what round-trip Uber costs when you don’t live in a city that doesn’t have adequate public transportation.
Even when the bus runs it’s another physical barrier to carry all those groceries. All this on top of your physical limitations making every other everyday tasks difficult and exhausting.
I’m much more talking from a community standpoint. I would ask family or neighbours to help.
I’m thinking of a different cost factor as well. If one’s knee is so badly hurt that walking 100m is a serious debate, I imagine it isn’t as useful in an emergency brake situation.
So getting groceries might not cost 100$ more, it might cost one’s life.
Not everyone has people they can rely on, homie. At a certain point just accept that there can be a genuinely good reason for not returning a cart instead of doing mental gymnastics to justify a crazy “no tolerance” policy. Literally all that is being asked is that you take that other commenter at face value: it’s not always a 100% judge of character. In the first place, the idea of it being a judge of character is a meme, a joke- anyone with actual character would acknowledge that and also acknowledge that they don’t always know everything and there are exceptions to every rule..
imagine telling on yourself like this
not on lazy and selfish, but obviously dumb both for sharing this and for thinking the explanation makes any sense. also, for not just parking near the fucking corral on the first place
what a fuckin’ wanker
can walk around an entire store shopping with said cart, but can’t spend a fraction if that walking to return it
You were able to run the first 90% of the mile! Why’re you slowing down so much?!
Yes, this is always an option available. There are always parking spots near the corrals, and the corrals are never in the middle of the parking lot, forcing a person with a disability to cover considerably more distance.
can walk around an entire store shopping with said cart, but can’t spend a fraction if that walking to return it
You guys are some ablist mother fuckers.
I’ve had a borked knee before. Sometimes you start the shopping trip and feel fine, but by the time you’ve covered half your list you’re leaning heavily on that shopping cart for support.
I’m lucky my partner was always able to return the cart for me because I’m not sure I could have made it back to the car after turning the cart to the cart stand.
Sure, Adolph, go ahead and tell yourself whatever lies you need to go to sleep at night.
We see you.
/s
I’m sorry for your downvotes. I can think of several reasons not to return the cart, with different levels of validity.
I’m almost always alone, not in a hurry, and quite healthy. I will look around for additional carts to return with mine because I recognize that, in the future I might be the one without to privileges. In short: Got chu, fam.
I’m fully mobile now and do the same. I think the downvotes are funny, but thanks for the support.
this guy is right and the downvotes are insane. You don’t always know what’s going on. All they are asking is that maybe you don’t judge people so harshly when you don’t understand their situation. Jesus christ.
“No, I refuse! The world is perfect and you should have had a nurse or aide that you could totally afford help you out if it’s such a challenge for you! You were able to run the first half of the mile! Why can’t you finish it out?”
Ableist slime.
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