I was going to respond at least somewhat affirming what you said and then I saw who you linked. Gross. Can’t stand BilleRaeBrandt. Nothing but an apologist for misogyny.
I don’t know who that is, I simply searched “men not approaching” in YouTube search. There’s no shortage of similar contradictory content. Women are not a monolith, so it stands to reason that some genuinely don’t want to be approached at all, and some do, but since we’re not psychic, that just leaves respectful men not approaching as a default position.
I guess she is a youtuber or tiktoker or whatever who will make a short video about a hetero relationship that (as far as I have ever seen) always blames the woman for why things have gone wrong with their dating attempts or existing relationships, etc. It’s never the man’s fault.