The bloat is coming from inside the house!
Customization is and always will be a key selling point of Linux, that’s why I refuse to recommend any district with gnome as DE.

…but I actually like GNOME!

There are quite a few customization options for it too.

It’s all fun and games until you have to actually maintain everything as time goes on. At some point the tradeoff in personal time becomes too great.
My ricing days are long gone. Now I just roll with the defaults and adjust the key bindings since my muscle memory has already hardened into diamonds.
You got to recommend what fits the user. Otherwise you are just telling them what fits you.
Gnome is customizable tho. Just not as much as kde:‘ :)
Gnome is easily the least customizable DE in the entire Linux ecosystem.
They dont have anything against customization. They just dont see why they should add explicit support when they had a clear purpose/vision in mind regarding the software they Write and are lazy enough to say: yo its Not our issue when your customization breaks our apps because it our apps werent intended to be Hacked with in your way

webb.is-a.dev/do-not-resize/

This is what gnome devs talking about theming sound like

Please don’t resize our windows

An open letter from an independent app developer to the wider graphical community

I prefer hype land myself but can live with ideas unlike gnome
I keep reading that KDE is super customizable, but nobody ever gives examples. What can be customized other than changing colors and rearranging panels? I’d love to make it my own, but I don’t have the first clue what that would mean.