The one that still gets me, and mostly because in this day and age of 2026 it still doesn’t get as much homophobic backlash as I feel it clearly deserves is the pejorative: cocksucker.

In my anecdotal experience, 99.55% of the time, it’s leveraged against men and used as a homophobic slur.

But even so, is sucking cock really that terrible of a thing to do? The vast majority of people with a cock enjoy the service. We literally celebrate the people who do it well for us personally, in most cases.

Why is it used as a slur?

Anyway, I’m off to suck some cock, see ya’ll later.

George Carlin (who is idolized and rightly so, mostly) had a line in one of his standup specials where he said “you show me a tropical fruit and I’ll show you a cocksucker from Guatemala”. Homophobia was just so normalized back then (this was the ‘80s). Eddie Murphy had a whole routine (which he has since apologized for, to his credit) imagining Mr. T as a homosexual ("Hey boy you lookin’ mighty cute in them jeans!"). Robin Williams (also idolized here) routinely acted gay for the humor value of it (such as it was).

Yep! And that’s part of the culture I grew up in and came to age in. Media that demonized and mocked gay men (and really all gay people), even otherwise progressive and lighthearted media.

It was damaging to me as a child. More so than a lot of people could ever realize.

Also disheartening is that a lot of my super religious family will use the term cocksucker as a derogatory statement right in front of me, knowing I’m gay. These are the same exact people who literally freak out and act like you’ve shot their mother in front of them if you say the word “fuck” or “god damn”.