It deserves all the criticism.
And it is by far my favorite DE.
yet seem incapable of understanding that people could have preferences different from their own.
Perfect description of Gnome developers.

General Linux question, I know this isn’t KDE’s fault. So there is still no way to cure this split personality disorder? If I wanted GNOME aesthetics, I’d be using GNOME. Or am I missing something? Unfortunately, it’s impossible to simply avoid those apps. Thanks!
So apps look the way they are made?
When I use KDE apps in GNOME they also look like KDE apps. Obviously - that’s the way they are made. If I want something else than what someone else created I will use something else, not complain about how they didn’t create it the way I personally prefer.