I've been saying for awhile that moving to self-hosting stuff means losing some QoL because a lot of things we call QoL are the product of centralization, enclosure, and capital.
Well in some cases stability is the same. Self-hosting a voice chat or streaming server in California US is going to suck for people half way around the world and that is, in part, because there is a "fast lane" to the internet and it's provided by massive capital like AWS and GCP.
Massive cloud companies with a ton of PoPs and fiber has even smoothed over bad intercontinental and islandic hops in many cases and leaving those centralized, enclosed systems runs the risk of leaving them behind.
There's no good answer, everyone needs to make the best decisions they can for their own communities.