DavidDoesLemmy‘The whole family is destroyed’: Australia’s inheritance disputes aren’t just increasing – they’re becoming messier
IlandarI feel like if you have a sibling like the one in the article no amount of planning is going to prevent this situation. Some people are just more greedy and selfish at a base level. Like what kind of person is left an entire house and thinks “yeah, I deserve all of this and my siblings deserve nothing”?
"Like what kind of person is left an entire house and thinks “yeah, I deserve all of this and my siblings deserve nothing”
The person that was there taking care of the parents, getting them to doctor appointments and taking time off work to provide for them while everyone else was absent physically and/or financially. Nobody else cared when they were alive, they dont get to care now that they are dead.
That’s exactly the type of selfish and greedy attitude I’m referring to. You’re not owed anything for being a “good child”, you don’t earn an inheritance like it’s some kind of delayed job bonus. The parent brought all of you into the world without your permission, they should leave an equal amount to all upon leaving it. If people have an issue with that then it says a lot more about their ego and inflated self-worth than anything else.
Which one has the greedy attitude if the parents decide “only one of our children gives a shit about me, the rest suck” and chooses to leave it to one child?
Are the greedy ones the other children who say “screw that, show me the money”?
Or is the greedy one the child that says “I sacrificed economically and personally to do unpaid domestic labour, now I’m getting paid back for my kindness”?
Definitely the latter. Thinking you’re getting “paid” is such a bizarre way to approach inheritance, it actually suggests you didn’t care about your parents at all. In any case, the other siblings shouldn’t have to say “show me the money” because the sibling with an unequal share of the inheritance should immediately be willing to share it regardless of what it said in the will. Keeping everything for yourself because “mummy and daddy said it’s only for me” is the way a child’s brain operates.
Respecting your parents wishes in death is the adult thing to do. Thinking you deserve an inheritance is the childish thing to do.