The problem with ditching services like Discord or Google Docs or Dropbox isn't me, I'm happy to do it. It's everyones I need to work with. They aren't going to join my self-hosted service just to exchange work files or chat, etc. I've tried.
@grumpygamer This is the exact issue I have because due to being jobless and having bad luck in school I have zero IRL friends and my entire social life depends on the friends I got online so it's crucial I stick to wherever they all are 😭 best I've been able to do is add one of my friends on Signal