I see it's once again time to post this: https://taggart-tech.com/discord-alternatives
Discord Alternatives, Ranked

Building an online community takes more than tools. But the right tool can make all the difference.

@mttaggart Stoat has actually moved SHOCKINGLY quickly and I would say it is easily 85%+ parity for the majority of users at this point. The biggest sticking point would probably be servers with >100 custom emojis or highly dependent on bots (which are relatively easy to port.)
@rootwyrm Last I checked the moderation tools were still nowhere near adequate, and that is a dealbreaker for me.
@mttaggart most of Discord's power user moderation tools are reliant on third-party bots or demonstrably ineffective. Baseline moderation tools are at this point, 1:1 or better. Channel visibility can be set per-role, you can include a reason along with a ban. The UI could use some polish, but it's there.

@rootwyrm

most of Discord's power user moderation tools are reliant on third-party bots or demonstrably ineffective.

As an admin of a 3000+ user server, I strongly disagree. AutoMod is a lifesaver and I can't imagine running a public space without something equivalent.

@mttaggart I also admin on rather large servers. If Discord makes one more claim their 'automod' actually stops the hacked account spamming, I will stab that employee in the face.
It absolutely does not. Literally 99% of the 'moderation' I do, is cleaning up after spammers posting obvious phishing links in every single channel that their 'suspected spam' block continuously lets through.
@rootwyrm That's true, but the ability to create useful blocklists of terms limits the attacks to one per technique. The lists I have block the vast majority of attempts. If Stoat has that capacity, great.

@mttaggart ah yeah if you manage big communities that might be a problem. For my 25 friends it doesn't really matter.
I tried it when it was still revolt and really liked it, but never actually made the move

@rootwyrm