Is anyone aware of any peer-reviewed studies about autistic masking and apologizing? Like do we (autistics) apologize more when we are higher-masking? I'm searching my databases of course but sometimes you all have better answers than the computer.
@dramypsyd @Testoceratops I mask well and apologize when necessary but not excessively.
@k8 @dramypsyd I can mask well until I reach shutdown, and apologize way too much over nothing, or so I'm told by my friends and fiancΓ©e. More likely due to trauma in my case. I'd be interested in other answers too, I'll follow the post! Thanks for yours
@Testoceratops @dramypsyd When I hit shutdown I say my goodbyes and leave. It’s a developed skill.

@k8 @dramypsyd It's great you've managed to develop it, well done! I often struggle because I don't respect my own boundaries (no problems with the others, just myself) and realize it sometimes too late.

I've been getting better at it lately, though. Less shutdowns since then, now that I think about it! Which totally makes sense

@Testoceratops @dramypsyd I still push myself too far. Recognizing when I’ve almost at my stopping point is still a work in progress.
@k8 @dramypsyd It's a long journey, you already did a lot so far. You can be proud of you. Hope it'll go well for you!
@k8 @Testoceratops very relatable πŸ’œπŸ’œπŸ’œ
@dramypsyd @k8 Sending you two my best wishes. It's hard to work on, but really worth it and feels rewarding to me when I do. Don't know if you get that too?
Thanks for sharing πŸ’œ
@Testoceratops @k8 Oh definitely! And worth the long term burnout prevention πŸ’œ