now it's veronicaexplains.net

I deleted most posts from yesterday. I got some DMs overnight that folks are harassing people from my replies (via DMs).

I'm so sorry.

Feb 4 at 3:46pmWeb
Show threadStefano MarinelliFeb 4
@vkc that’s sad. It’s not your fault if it’s full of bad people out there.
Show threadRaymond RussellFeb 4

@vkc

I appreciate the stuff you do here and other places.

Show threadBryan L. FordhamFeb 4

@vkc oh no. I’m sorry.

Your voice matters here. You as a person matter. I’m sorry there are men (and others, but mostly men) making you feel unwelcome and harassed.

Show threadFriedhardwareFeb 4
@vkc I don’t think it’s on you to apologize for the actions of bad people. Those folks are the issue and pushing out better voices.
Show threadViniFeb 4
@vkc don't worry, if we suffer as a community we'll stand as a community. Keep your head up ✊
Show threadalexandraFeb 4
@vkc what the hell is wrong with people? that’s not your fault. 🩷
Show threadWorkshopshedFeb 4
@vkc yeh, what @xandra said!
Show threadThe CyberwitchFeb 4

@vkc it's not your fault. Its disheartening that even on fedi, speaking out is shamed and they treat band-aids as a solution. But on the other hand, I feel seen and not-crazy when others, especially with a platform are fed up and say "its time we all have this conversion."

Accepting and living under the status quo is antithetical to the purpose of the Fediverse.

Show threadrenegadesporkFeb 4
@vkc It’s alright, I found some fun new instances to block! 👋
Show threadDragonBardFeb 4
@vkc @jesse like why is there even a "skinheads" instance that federates to anyone?
Show threadI’m Tired And Everything HurtsFeb 4
@vkc Sorry you're dealing with bullshit. Is there anything I can actually do to help?
Show threadStefan BohacekFeb 5

@guffo

When you see someone harassing someone else on here, call them out, and if appropriate, report them.

That includes people "just asking questions" and "just sharing their (unwanted) opinion and (unhelpful) suggestions".

And if you happen to have a GitHub account, it might be useful to give these two issues a thumbs-up:

https://github.com/mastodon/mastodon/issues/8565

https://github.com/mastodon/mastodon/issues/14762

Show threadWhiteHotaruFeb 4
@vkc I think these are two sides of the same coin and not ok in both cases. „Be excellent to each other“ works in any direction. Thank you for speaking out on that topic. Your posts help people like me (white male) to learn and avoid mistakes.
Show threadHenk van der EijkFeb 4
@vkc I'm so sorry this is happening to you and to those supporting or helping you.
Show threadVictoria🏳️‍⚧️Feb 4
@vkc its not your fault and you didnt do anything to apologise for!
Show threadEvan ProdromouFeb 4

@vkc I'm really disappointed in this. I understand that you want to protect yourself and your followers, and I absolutely respect that.

This is an important conversation for the Fediverse to have, though. I'd like to see if we can figure it out at the protocol and technology level. We don't have to have the conversation in your comments, though.

EDIT: updated to make it clearer that Veronica is right to take care of herself and others.

Show threadnow it's veronicaexplains.netFeb 4
@evan it's not my job to be the standard bearer for this situation though, and I need to take the steps needed to protect my safety and the safety of folks around me.
Show threadEvan ProdromouFeb 4
@vkc absolutely, and I'm sorry if I sounded like I was saying that you had to. I meant, I am taking it up as an important topic to work on.
Show threadEvan ProdromouFeb 4
@vkc I edited the post to make that clearer, I hope.
Show threadadaFeb 5
@evan @vkc i'm worried we'll always be in an arms race with people who have an ideological rationale to harass women who speak out against being harassed
Show threadEvan ProdromouFeb 5
@ada @vkc hopefully not always.
Show threadMcNeelyFeb 4
@vkc sorry to hear this was happening in your other replies. I appreciate you taking the time yesterday during a difficult day to talk about it
Show threadnLupo  Feb 4
@vkc Such people definitely should be reported.
Show threadnow it's veronicaexplains.netFeb 5
@nlupo I reported 52 accounts yesterday. 26 more today. I report frequently
Show threadVincent SparksFeb 5
@vkc @nlupo i wonder how many of them will face any disciplinary action
Show threadIron and InkFeb 4
@vkc not your fault that people are disrespectful and inconsiderate.
Show threadDane HensonFeb 5
@vkc you are doing the best you can. I’m sorry this is always happening to you.
Show threadadaFeb 5
@vkc for what it's worth, it's not your fault. you and everybody else being harassed are the ones who deserve apologies.
Show threadNegative12DollarBillFeb 6
@vkc Can you report DMs?