Pour one out for our brother in arms whose wife just gave him permission to build a second gaming PC ;)
Not in this economy. Ram alone will require a second mortgage.

Buy a used Optiplex.

Gets you an acceptable case, mobo, CPU, RAM, and probably SSD for about $100. Add a used 3050/3060/4060 GPU and an upgraded PSU.

It’s not gonna knock your socks off, but it gets you going without over-spending and you can carry some of that forward when you upgrade later.

May I suggest an AMD card instead? Even on the second market, they’re typically better bang-for-buck
You absolutely may. Intel is valid too.
I’d plug a live raccoon into my computer before an Nvidia card.
It would cause fewer issues on Linux, too.
Yeah, raccoon support was merged into the kernel back in 5.2.
I’ve been extremely satisfied both with the 9070XT that replaced my old RTX 3080, and the Arc A310 in my media server. Both have worked flawlessly, and with Optiscaler, native DLSS/FSR/XeSS support doesn’t really matter anymore, you can just use whatever regardless of your hardware, and add FG if you want to anything.
GitHub - optiscaler/OptiScaler: OptiScaler bridges upscaling/frame gen across GPUs. Supports DLSS2+/XeSS/FSR2+ inputs, replaces native upscalers, enables FSR3 FG on non-FG titles. Supports Nukem mod for DLSSG-to-FSR3 FG.

OptiScaler bridges upscaling/frame gen across GPUs. Supports DLSS2+/XeSS/FSR2+ inputs, replaces native upscalers, enables FSR3 FG on non-FG titles. Supports Nukem mod for DLSSG-to-FSR3 FG. - optisc...

GitHub
i was going to recommend this; a couple that loves doing something together is bound to be much more rewarding than the cost of one of these machines.
I was thinking of buying (her) a 9070xt, taking the 6800xt from the big PC and making an egpu for the legion go. But then again the legion go is still keeping up 1080p/60 on medium with all games, so I’ll just keep playing for now. I might get a 1080p monitor though.