This makes no sense to me.
It makes sense only to people who believe in delusional āforever afterā and in the idea that once you loved( or been with someone) thatās it ! That person is not allowed and can never love some else.
What a pile of reduced monkeigh logic.
Even if you believe that, the idea that losing you would be such torture as to outweigh any good of being with you is utter bullshit. And even if you think it would, you donāt get to make that choice for someone else!
My wife recently got diagnosed with a small tumor on her pituitary gland. Her health already wasnāt the best, and sheās a week shy of exactly 5 years older than me. So I already knew I was most likely going to outlive her. But even if you told me I was going to outlive her by literally hundreds of years you would never catch me choosing not to be with her for however long I get. Iād choose to be with this woman every single time.
If she died tomorrow it would destroy me. But itās precisely because it will hurt me so much that Iām going to cherish every single moment I have with her for as long as I have her. And when the time does come to say goodbye Iām going to live on carrying those memories with me for however much longer I have before I join her wherever it is we go when this is all over. Because I know that she would want me to be happy in the time I have without her.
Sorry to hear this and I empathise with your situation. āLossā is a difficult emotion
I completely agree with āwe donāt get to make that choice for someone elseā. This shall always be true.
But if someone implies : that loving someone is just a one-time thing in life, like in a one-time use thenā¦ this is their choice ā¦
But iām not bound to thisā¦ and in fact i view this as very, very, limited point of view and existence. Itās just a social construct that some people pick it up to give meaning to their existence.
Fine ā¦ āyou do youā ā¦
Oh yeah Iām not saying it is one time use. Iām saying even if you grant the premise that it is one time use that the idea that you shouldnāt be with someone who is going to outlive you or that youāre going to outlive yourself is plain stupid.
I might not end up finding anyone else and remarrying if my wife passes away before me. Not because Iām not going to try or because I believe I canāt love anyone else. Iām just an asexual introvert and would most likely just be focused on being happy single then if I happen to meet someone I vibe with then Iād be open to seeing where it goes.
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