I am a certified sex-haver and understanding how/when/why my wife and i get aroused or orgasm has dramatically improved my #erotica #writing
Unfortunately it has also limited my ability to enjoy descriptions of sex that sound as if the writer is skeptical or unaware that women enjoy or actively participate in sex and the manner by which they do so.
Women fuck. They do more than lay there and take dick. Positions besides missionary exist. Orgasms don't feel psychedelic. PIV is fun but not the goal of every sexual encounter
Write the women having a good time. Write them cumming before penetration, and during. Put some tongue on it.
Chaste writers writing sex scenes make me unreasonably angry lol.