Lady Butterfly she/herParents of WomensStuff is this something you've experienced?
JessicaIâll bet! I have zero knowledge of parenting so I always ask questions I NEVER tell them anything. My knowledge of the area is literally zero so I know to STFU
endlessvoidAs a parent to a 5 and a 2 yo, once kids can communicate they can often be reasoned with. Most things that I ask them as a parent are things they dont want to do, like brush their teeth or donât throw their toys or share with their sister. As a parent itâs my job to make them understand WHY those things are important and worth doing.
Brush your teeth so they dont decay and need to be cut out.
Dont throw toys because they will break and get thrown away or be taken away for everyones safety.
Share with your sister because if you cant cooperate with people they wont cooperate with you when you want them to.
Breaking down the reasons to language a kid can understand is generally successful and certainly much better than trying to force your kids to comply with expectations based on nothing more than âbecause I said soâ, which was a common refrain said to me and my siblings growing up.
Out of curiosity, I always wondered⌠when do they start being conscious?
Like we all donât remember our first years⌠but at some point, we know we are, we remember, and we see our hands, and go like, âwtf, iâm a personâ, and so on
Round about 18months- ish. You know, when ASD tends to show up as the person brain comes online
1.5 years? seems farfetched, I remember nothing till Iâm 4, and even then, the âconstant stream of memoriesâ only really started around 7, 8 for me.
I actually remember the bathroom of a house we moved out of when i was less than 2 years old. Was also apparently walking unassisted at 9 months as well. Everyone has different developmental rates, milestones are general goals. But itâs generally agreed its around 18 months the brain goes from âamorphous needsâ to âperson brainâ , hence it being where neurodivergence tends to start showing up.
As itâs also the point where vaccinations are best (your immune system is able to process them, and youâre vulnerable enough to need protection) antivaxxers have drawn some very, very incorrect conclusions
At least for the toddler years, dog training and child raising have more similarities than differences. Parents are just too proud to admit it.
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No1Shit, when my kids were toddlers I couldnât even get them to do something they literally just told me they wanted to do.
Instructions no but man, they have no idea about emotional dysregulation.
My personal fave was the four hour meltdown because i wouldnât let him eat a pool ball
hungryphrogHow dare you deny him the pleasure of eating a pool ball?!