🍹Early to RISA 🧉Nov 13

Anon takes a DNA test

https://sh.itjust.works/post/49708021

Show threadWalrusDragonOnABike [they/them]Nov 13

I have a half-sibling who took one of those tests not knowing his parents went to a sperm bank due to fertility issues, so he assumed his mom had an affair (and he’s not the youngest child). The rest of us all knew I think (except the sperm donor’s actual child). Fortunately, he had another one of my half-siblings reach out to him to explain it.

Also “Turned out my father isn’t my real dad” is BS. Genetic test results are useless for determining such.

Show threadcameron_

Genetic tests can be used to determine paternity though?

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/DNA_paternity_testing

Maybe you are referring to a specific type of test?

DNA paternity testing - Wikipedia

Nov 13 at 7:50amWeb
Show threadzoutNov 13
He's referring to the fact that paternity doesn't make you a dad.
Show threadDeathsEmbraceNov 13
You can preach this too.
Show threadRaivoKulliNov 13
Eh we all know what anon meant
Show threadWalrusDragonOnABike [they/them]Nov 13
Yes, we all get anon was also communicating that his dad didn’t contribute ~half of anon’s genetic material, but using language that also communicates that real parents should be devalued if they don’t contribute their seed and seed donors should be thought of as being more than just irrelevant seed donors.
Show threadRaivoKulliNov 13
I mean they’re the biological father
Show threadWalrusDragonOnABike [they/them]Nov 13
That’s not what anon said though.
Show threadRaivoKulliNov 13
No I meant to your irrelevant seed partner thing
Show threadWalrusDragonOnABike [they/them]Nov 13
Biological fathers are irrelevant seed donors if that’s all they do.
Show threadRaivoKulliNov 13
No I was just saying In addition to that they’re the biological father
Show threadWalrusDragonOnABike [they/them]Nov 13
That’s just a synonym, not an additional thing.
Show threadRaivoKulliNov 13
I guess so
Show threadFushuan [he/him]Nov 13

Who is your father, the one you would rely on when you need a paternal figure, the dude who shoot his sperm or the dude who raised you? Hopefully both dudes are the same person but in the case they aren’t, I think the answer is clear.

I’d be surprised if adopted kids don’t consider the people who raised them as parents as their actual parents.

Show threadRaivoKulliNov 13
I mean first one might just be a father figure, second is the biological father and the third might be a step-father. All fathers of sort
Show threadFushuan [he/him]Nov 13
You would be technically correct with the first two, but adopted kids are not step-kids. Those aren’t are legally full parents, not step-parents. Step-parents might be the boyfriend or next husband of a single mother or vice-versa, but once you are adopted, if we are getting pedantic about it, the step thing disappears.
Show threadRaivoKulliNov 13
Oh okay, i just thought it came from not being the biological father
Show threadWalrusDragonOnABike [they/them]Nov 13
Those tests are how we know who our formerly anonymous sperm donor is and how a bunch of us half-siblings know each other. We’ve met the sperm donor a couple times. Seems like a cool dude mostly. But he’s only one person’s real dad.