vestmoriaif you're offered a position you can use to advance your career but it involves people without boundaries, do you tell your maybe-future-to-be manager you don't want to work with those people?
BoozillaSome extroverts assume quiet people are “weird and creepy”. They gossip and pry into your business to test you, to see if you’re “safe” to work with. It’s a common form of hazing. They are filtering for who they think they can trust.
If you want the job: try to “gray rock” them until they get bored with you. They’ll never trust you, but they might leave you alone or assume you’re a harmless boring weirdo. Or they might decide to make your job a living hell until you transfer out. Depends on how vicious they are.
You can’t control them, but you can refuse to engage at their jr high level.
It’s a common form of hazing.
jesus chirst, I just read the wikipedia article on hazing and now I’m scared.
You can’t control them, but you can refuse to engage at their jr high level.
they’ll badmouth me all the way to management.
better to stay where I am. Holy crap.
Why do people have to be like this?
Sorry I wasn’t more encouraging. I guess I have become a bit jaded regarding overly extroverted coworkers over the years. I do think going to management would probably do more harm than good. Only you can judge how obnoxious the gossiping folks are, and your own tolerance threshold for it. I’m just some rando on the internet. But I do completely empathize with your situation.