Natasha  🇪🇺Oct 27
Show threadFish Id Wardrobe ⁂Oct 27

@Natasha_Jay I'm torn here.

This is good advice that will help poor kids.

But at the same time: who is it that chucks out old toys they gave to their kids? those don't belong to you! you gave them to your children!

Christmas would have had a *very* different meaning for me if I understood it as "you can play with these for a while, but they're not yours. we can take them any time we want."

Show threadTakiro 🎨Oct 27
@fishidwardrobe @Natasha_Jay
My parents did take away toys from me regularly, either as punishment or any other reason. I pretty quickly understood that I didn't own anything and nothing was really mine. I still have this mindset over 30 years later, as an adult.
Show threadFish Id Wardrobe ⁂

@Takiro @Natasha_Jay right. I was lucky in this regard, but I've observed that a *lot* of parents don't think their kids have anything they can't take away. even apparently nice parents.

If the kids are consenting and helping you pick what to give away, that's a whole other story.

But.

Oct 27 at 2:51pmWeb
Show threadTakiro 🎨Oct 27
@fishidwardrobe @Natasha_Jay
Until now I thought it was the same for everyone else.
Show threadsuzanneOct 27

@fishidwardrobe @Takiro @Natasha_Jay
This certainly doesn't preclude getting the kids to help pick out toys they decide they're ready to get rid of. But also, you end up with closets full of toys kids have outgrown and never play with. The parents I know who "clear out" toys are usually getting rid of things their kids have put away years before.

I always mean to do this before the holidays. But it can be overwhelming until you've run out of shelves and have no choice. Which is usually after.