how do we make the relationship 50/50? - The Lemmy Club

so, my girlfriend is a gamer girl who seems to really like men, especially fictional men. she still sees me as a woman, i believe, but i will tell her i’m not and i feel like it would be better, like my friends said, if i was a man to her because she used to be really heteronormative as well and not like it when her male crushes were gay. however, because i’m afab, she expects me to really like men when i only really like a few men. (i might actually be omni with a woman pref. but i also think i just like who i like i don’t have a preference). also, she can’t seem to put her game down. she wants me to watch her play video games and do literally nothing else, does not wanna spend time with me alone barely, and if she does, just wants me to watch her play video games. she will not go out with me anywhere or do anything else, and i’m always expected to like her interests and even when i’ve talked to her, she says she’s bored and wants to play her game rather than watch movies or shows i like. because of this, i only watch movies and gameplays that she likes and barely really have much interests of my own except for a few. i am becoming someone new, some facade of a pan woman who really likes men and only her interests.