Am I stupid or whats the joke? Women cant use tools?

Generally, those who need to ask how to install a drill bit into a drill are not typically the people who should turn around and immediately proceed to drilling holes in walls.

And they live in the same house. And now you need to go tell the person you love that they shouldn’t do work on the house they also live in.

“[dear spouse] why don’t you wait 'til i get home and we can do the project together” works well for me.