Pretty much same. I came to recognize that my use of masculine pronouns had been just another extension of autistic masking, of creating a socially expected appearance. Internally, gender has never mattered to me. I’m also panromantic demisexual. I don’t have a preference for gender in romantic partners, I just don’t experience myself or others like neurotypicals do.

When I was 30. I didn’t see gender as quite so relevant at a younger age, but then masculinity became a really unappealing quality for me as I observed some toxic varieties in the people around me, and felt as if I was being infected by it.

at 30 i was a demigirl, but since i turned 32 (am 35 now) i consider myself genderqueer. i was struggling with the whole idea probably in my late 20s tho.

Its been a good few years, kind of a process, that labels (not just for gender, but for everything, but that’s a whole mother discussion) seems wrong to me. It always feels to me that whenever labeling someone or something, even if the label is accurate and we stay only on that aspect that the label tries to define, too much is being left out. So much that it makes my brain tired thinking about how to explain the gap.

Anyway, back to topic. I realized a lot about myself and how I was during my 20s. I just recently became 40 and realized I don’t feel comfortable in being called a man nor a woman. I feel neither, and both. We all have both of them in us, in different degrees. Its been about 2 or so year since that understanding became clear to me.

There is something very freeing, but very alianting with truly living it.

Physically I’m only attracted to women, but mentally, so far it’s been only for men. But very very specific. Emotionally it’s too complex.

I think that gender fluid is a wonderful term for instance, since to me it’s really abstract and non confining.

Anyway I love the fact that people discuss these kinds of stuff. Keep it up yall

not gonna fucking lie, im trans masc and I used to go by solely he/him, but at my job, men have to wear ties, so I started going by they/them and it turns out it’s correct

Transitioning mtf but sometimes not feeling the “correct” gender in a way that wasn’t dysphoria.

Pretty much when I had a schizo break and God told me to tell the truth, don’t pretend to know something I don’t, and don’t pretend to be something I’m not. I took that advice to heart and became Socrates for a few years, examining everything in my life and sorting the nonsense out.

It wasn’t as much that I found out I’m nb, I moreso found out that most people DO feel strongly about being a man or a woman. I never did, and kinda just assumed that was the case for most people. Even when I was like 8 years old, I’d be thrilled that some people read me as male and some read me as female. Just figured that was a common experience.

In my mid thirties with a couple pit stops along the way. It kind of evolved and progressed to just settling here. It’s comfy.