Shonalika

I never used to think that neurodiversity separated me profoundly from people who are neurotypical or closely adherent to neurotypical patterns, but that’s probably because I spend so much time around autism/ADHD-havers that it rarely becomes apparent

the reality is that I’m long-term fully incompatible

Jul 22, 2025 at 8:00amWeb
Show threadShonalikaJul 22, 2025
I cannot hack the neurotypical habits of expecting others to infer and anticipate needs instead of clearly communicating them, saying one thing but actually meaning another, making up entire narratives about others’ awareness and intentions then following through as if those guesses are facts, and the extent to which they then project onto and blame others for failing to meet their expectations
Show threadShonalikaJul 22, 2025
furthermore, neurotypical expectations often correlate VERY strongly with those of patriarchy and white supremacy. direct unfiltered communication may be respected coming from a white man (assumed authority + no expectation to behave otherwise), but not from a brown non-man (assumed incompetence + expectation of submissiveness/servility)
Show threadShonalikaJul 22, 2025
lots of people enact these fiction-led behaviours to some extent, like autistics aren’t immune, but I find a lot of it a) just doesn’t happen because we’re more likely to say what we mean and b) a lot of trans (autistic) culture involves a lot of self-reflection and altering our more ego-led responses to communicate more clearly and kindly, so unhelpful patterns are constantly checked and changed
Show threadShonalikaJul 22, 2025
anyway all this to say I love neurodiverse trans people and truly never want to be around anyone else