@atpfm I share your “if it’s not in the calendar it’s not going to happen” viewpoint. Sometimes that’s not enough, though, since I often just don’t see the alerts. I missed a haircut appointment once because of this and decided to see if I could do better. I ended up making a Shortcut that runs daily and creates alarms for anything in my calendar with a particular emoji in the title. This has been a big help: https://www.icloud.com/shortcuts/998f7f6b5c9b442b8d38c4085737e553