Queer Like The SlurJul 15

It's often noted that toddlers say 'no' a lot because that's what's constantly said to them. Toddlers are just mirroring what they're receiving. Then adults flip out, because they can't cope with being treated the way they treat toddlers.

Far less acknowledged is the way youth are constantly told 'you should'. They come to believe that's the normal way middle aged and elderly people interact, because that's the only way older people interact with them: projecting judgement and instruction. Then adults flip out because they can't stand being spoken to the way they speak to teens.

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@coolandnormal My favorite way parents and guardians fuck up their kids is when they expect them to do something without teaching them how to do it, and when it isn't perfect or something goes wrong, they scream and yell and then still never teach them the right way to do it.

I didn't learn how to use a stove until I was 19. Didn't know how to change oil or tires until 20.
Some fundamental flaw in the way some parents were raised prevents them from remembering their own ignorant youth.

Jul 16 at 3:21pmWeb