💙 Bwee the Fluffdragon 💙

One thing I've learned:

If you're deeply questioning whether or not you may be able to apply a certain label to yourself... you can, pretty much all of the time.

You think you might be trans? You are.

You think you might be a furry? Join the club!

You think you might be a dragon? Heck yeah, be one with me!!

You think you might be gay? That's a yes.

Embrace labels that help you define who you are. They can sometimes vary in definition, but if you feel it can apply to you, use it! Not only will it help you, it'll help others identify with you and maybe make you some new friends, or help you find people to help guide you along your path of discovery.

Your experiences and life are yours. Feel free to experiment and see what works best for you! You're allowed to change your mind later!

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Jul 3 at 7:44pmWeb
Show threadThawny (Rose)Jul 3

@Bwee Somebody once said "Spending hours fretting about whether you're ____ is a pretty good indication" x3

Fill in the blank with your own awesomeness, and don't be afraid to own who you are!

Show threadEther DiverJul 4

@Bwee Weighing in on the bisexual/pansexual front to say, yes, all of y'all, too! It's okay if you prefer one gender, it's okay if you have only yet dreamt about straying from heteronormativity (or homonormativity for that matter!), it's fine if you don't really get what's going with you, you just know it's weird and complex. You're bi/pan/queer enough.

No one does bisexual/pansexual erasure like bisexuals/pansexuals 😅 ... We're the most self doubting group out there!

Show threadKye FoxJul 4
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Show threadBoyd Stephen Smith Jr.Jul 4
@Bwee Counterpoint: Rachel Dolezal
Show threadQuercus 🟡⚪🟣⚫Jul 7
@Bwee you are telling me I don't need to spend the next five years obsessively picking apart and gatekeeping the labels/identities I'm trying on? cause that sure would save me a lot of heartache.
Show thread💙 Bwee the Fluffdragon 💙Jul 7
@coppercrush You really don't need to. You are beautiful and whatever labels you decide are right for you are yours for the taking. Good luck, friend!! I'm cheering for you!!! 💙💙💙💙💙
Show threadIndigoJul 7
@Bwee it's also okay to switch labels if one no longer feels applicable!
Show threadMiStJul 7
@Bwee gets sadly more complicated with labels that seem to be mutually exclusive...
am I pan? am I ace? neither? both? what does both even mean? will others understand? do I even understand myself?
Show thread💙 Bwee the Fluffdragon 💙Jul 7
@mist Awww yeah it can be really hard to find labels that work, but maybe this will help: Perhaps you are panromantic and asexual? 💙💙💙💙
Show threadRosyJul 7

@mist @Bwee nothing wrong with using labels that seem to contradict!

words exist to serve us, not the other way around

Show threadHeyItsRobinJul 7

@Bwee just weighing in with an alternative that worked for and helped me.

If you’re not sure about yourself, or you’re still questioning and exploring your identity, or you feel like ‘committing’ to a label is a big insurmountable obstacle… okay — don’t give it a label!

I’ve known I don’t fit the cishet template for over a decade, but for a wide variety of reasons I’ve never felt comfortable with most labels.

The only label I give myself is “queer”, and I’m actually more comfortable with that. It doesn’t feel like I have to explain myself to everyone, there’s no internalised pressure about “changing” my labels as my life and identity and preferences develop, and it covers all bases.

If more precise labels help you to work out who you are and express yourself and to feel comfortable and seen, use them! Explore them! Change them! But if they don’t? If it doesn’t work for you? Okay — just be queer, or something else nebulous and fitting. You don’t owe people your whole identity, especially if you’re not sure what it is yet! Just go with an umbrella word that lets you explore or understand yourself internally ^w^