masukomiJun 27
#LGBTQ pride humor.
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Show threadDaughter of DiscordJun 27

@masukomi

Does aromantic mean no sex and no love, or just no love?

Because I will fuck anything that moves, but I don't allow myself to have feelings for them. No romance is the way I keep myself safe, as someone who suffers from borderline

Show threadI see Dud people!Jun 27
@CosmickTrigger I think that counts as "Polyamorous" @masukomi
Show threadmasukomiJun 27

@BackFromTheDud @CosmickTrigger

No, there's no flag for "will fuck anything that moves" ;)

What she described is explicitly NOT polyamorous because polyamorous is about loving multiple people. That requires romance.

Ethical non-monagamy is an umbrella term that encompasses polyamory and the various flavors of people who are ok with their partners having sex and/or relationships with others.

Someone who just has sex with one person after another could be a standard serial monogamist.

Show threadI see Dud people!Jun 27
@masukomi MAYBE (and I'm reaching here!!), MAYBE they love the one they're fucking at that moment in time? I'm not judging or attempting to justify, but speculating? Remember, not too long ago such a woman would be called many derogatory names, whereas a male with the same ambitions would be considered a Lothario, or stud... #NoJudgementCorner @CosmickTrigger
Show threadmasukomiJun 27

@BackFromTheDud @CosmickTrigger she literally said she doesn't allow herself to have romantic feelings so no.

BUT even if she did have feelings, that wouldn't be polyamory.

It's only a poly relationship if multiple simultaneous ongoing romantic relationships WITH informed consent from all parties. You're only a poly person IF you're 👍 with all that (regardless of if you're in a relationship at the moment)

blip blip blip would just be serial monogamy (regardless of feelings)

Show threadI see Dud people!Jun 27
@masukomi Leaving all that aside, what fucking difference does it make to any of us?? @CosmickTrigger, I apologise for this thread. Live the way you want (as long as it doesn't harm other people)
Show threadmasukomiJun 27

@BackFromTheDud @CosmickTrigger

it makes a difference because representation matters. Seeing those flags helps people to see possibilities that might reflect them and help them to find themselves, or find community.

The other stuff is important because poly people are effing sick of everyone assuming being polyamorous is just about sex.

I don't care who has sex with who, but I hate people assuming that my ability to love multiple people is the same as a free pass to fuck whoever I want.

Show threadI see Dud people!

@masukomi We could subdivide it further, if you like. Nothing like multiple-layers of sexuality to plough through before you find the one that fits. OR, we could just call the individual a "Slut" and have done with it, just like before?

I think both of us are overthinking this to an unhelpful degree. Can we call a timeout?

Jun 27 at 7:33pmWeb