I don’t know how some people actually manage to maintain an actual friendship with more than 3 people, really. Like, where the fuck do you find the time to have 20 close friends?

You know, there are quite a few numbers between 3 and 20. Also you dont have to talk to them every single day. Just meaningful time together. Thats it.

Or at least this worked / works for me.

Just meaningful time together. Thats it.

Yeah, but when?

What do you mean? When the time is right i guess?

If you mean how often, well that depends. Weekly / bi-weekly / monthly it really just how it goes.

Just because we dont meet up we dont just suddenly become strangers.

I wish I would see any of my friends monthly. I haven’t seen my best friend in like 4 months or so.

Weekly meetups with 3+ friends, that’s something you can do before you have a wife, kids and a job.

10 years ago, I had a really large social circle, with a group of ~15 people who met 1-4x per week. That was all fine and easy when the only commitment was university and part-time jobbing. But with a full-time job and kids, all that just disappears.

A week only has 168h. With work, sleep and family, there’s not a lot left.