HazelBeing trans is so ridiculous. Like the goals of my transition are so absurdly trivial, and yet the pursuit of it has brought the world to the edge of collapse. Like damn everyone chill. I just wanted to be able to gossip with the other ladies at the grocery store. It’s not that serious.
I am really amused by the idea that there was some cosmic bean counter who was keeping score of how many trans people there were and the moment I made a burner account on wandering.shop and posted “omg, I think I’m a girl. wtf?” He broke the glass and hit the “in case of too much trans” button.
Tattie@Oldbooksmell it really do feel that way
José Albornoz@Oldbooksmell i find this description of “why coming out” so hilarious but also thought provoking. do you feel coming out has allowed you to do things you couldn’t do before? like, why couldn’t you gossip to the ladies at the store? asking very seriously, been trying to learn more about gender identity lately and trying to deconstruct it so it makes sense to me
@eljojo So, I am definitely being flippant in the toot above. The random conversations I have at the store are like a downstream consequence of two things:
1) I am more confident and comfortable presenting as a woman.
2) Women perceive me as another woman, and that means they treat me differently.
I could have chatted with the people at the store pre-transition certainly but it would have a completely different experience, and not the right one for me.
@Oldbooksmell thanks for sharing, I never really thought about how my identity makes others behave around me.
When interacting with woman I assume they’ll treat me based on what I do, not who I am. That’s how I try to treat people myself.
I do agree with you though, there’s always this implicit need to tell people I’m not into them so they can relax their guard. I wish there was a more automated way of conveying that.
thanks for sharing your experience!
@eljojo I remember that. Always being treated as dangerous or suspect by women was really painful.
@Oldbooksmell I never really thought about that, but it’s true. It must be painful too needing to treat people like that.