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Lemmy

There are a lot of different types of poly relationship structures and different names for them. The base unit of relationship is a standard couple where 2 people are together. Add another person in and they can either be in a relationship with only one of those people and form a “hinge” aka “V” or be in a relationship with both of those people and form a “triad” aka “throuple”. As many people as those involved consent to can be added this way.

Most of the time it’s one person who is in a relationship with multiple people who are each in relationships with multiple people. This forms a “polycule”. Where you have the people you’re in relationships with aka your “paramours” and they have the people they’re in relationships with aka your “metamours”. This group of relationships can take many forms and can be drawn out into a cool diagram like a molecule, hence the name polycule.

The people you’re in a relationship with can break up with you like in any other relationship and vice versa. It’s more complicated when you add in housing situations if you’re all living together, multiple people are all dating each other, or if two people are married.

Using one of my breakups as an example:
I’ve been in a triad where one person broke up with the other. I was then put in the middle of their breakup drama. I set a boundary of not wanting to deal with their drama/shit talking of the other. One of them kept breaking that boundary, so I broke up with that person while still being in a relationship with the other. Luckily I was living with the person I stayed with or that would’ve been way more complicated.

if only STI’s weren’t a thing, polycules would be great….
but, i’d rather be single than have to deal with pustules on my genitals for life….
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i bet they’d all be cured by now if idiots didn’t see it as some divine retribution….

You know we can test for those things now, right? As long as everyone remains faithful to their partners its not an issue.

If 300 people all get tested and are clean, they can all get together every night for a massive orgy and there is zero STI risk. As long as none of them sleep with anyone outside of the group that hasn’t been tested.

you can’t just test for these things without symptoms.
most of these diseases have dormant phases and active phases… like a cold sore….
I don’t know how healthcare works where you live, but here you can. Its free, no questions asked. Get the results a couple of weeks later.

they don’t test for every single disease… it’s not where i live, it’s medical technology….
show me a screening test that tests for every single SDI or STFU….

repeating yourself is pointless. gimme proof or i do not care about the words you’re typing on here.

show me… any country, any price, show me your comprehensive, 100% accurate screening of every possible STI… or even something close to that… i’ll hold my breath.

Chlamydia, syphilis, HIV, gonorrhoea. Sure you could have herpes and that isn’t tested for there but it has pretty obvious symptoms. Its generally a good enough test for the general population and if you need something more specific you can just list your symptoms.
lol… 4 is not a screen for **all STI’**s… and your dismissal of any other risk is insane.
if herpes was that simple to stop, then nobody would have herpes… and that’s just one of the many that aren’t tested for.
once you have symptoms, it’s usually too late.
Sure if you are having new partners every week it probably isn’t enough to say you are clean for the next one but for most people it should be fine.
you’re changing the subject.
that’s not a screen for all STI’s making you 100% safe.
for most people it’s usually fine. i’m NOT saying it’s bad to be polyamorous, all i was saying is the risks are risky… it’s not 💯, and the bigger your polycule, the higher the risk someone is lying anyways, cheating, and bring sti’s into the group….
very real risks, worth considering….
it’s not making fucking not worth doing… but worth making educated decisions about