Earnest question – sorry if this is offensive or something everyone already knows – but shouldn’t you treat transwomen and ciswomen the same?

You are not wrong. But trans folks can be a lot more sensitive around language use sometimes. Misgendering ranges anywhere from annoying to hurtful to being an actual verbal attack. So their skin is often less thick for gendered language.

is using gender-neutral masculine terms like “guys” misgendering?