Is this picture idea immature?
A friend and I (both 30yo males) are thinking of getting our pictures taken with the Easter bunny while wearing overalls and a propeller hat. my sister says it’ll be immature and that if I were to show a girl they would immediately be turned off. We feel it’ll be funny and a good ice breaker with girls or anyone else for that matter. But now I’m kinda questioning it.
It is immature and if you go around showing it to girls expecting a date you’ll be disappointed.
Do it because it’s funny, not because you could use it as an ice-breaker (you can’t). If you really want to impress girls, doing it and not giving a fuck what your sister things is more likely the impress someone, girl or not- but it’s not an ice-breaker.
Well he wants to put it on dating profiles.
I just want to do it as not an ice breaker but as something I can bring up on a date while talking about other stuff if it’s relevant.
We are mostly doing it for the lols but figured it being an icebreaker was an extra.
Dating website: probably way too soon to share, just looks cringe.
First date: too soon to share, painfully obvious ploy for attention/trying to stand out.
Second date: getting closer, almost there.
Third date: probably safe to share as something endearing and silly.
My suggestion is to do it for yourself because it is fun, because trying to use it as a token to stand out from other men will be seen as a desperate attempt to be funny/quirky, if you bring it out to early.
You don’t use it to initially capture their attention, you use it to seal the deal.
I think this is the reason he shouldn’t do it. If the whole reason to do it is to attract women, that is pretty unattractive. It would be funny if they just did it for the “fuck it, why not be silly?” aspect of it, but I feel like if the original reason is to attract women, then the jig is up and it is forced and weird.
“Let’s be silly” is cool and attractive. “Let’s be silly so we can attract women” is cringe and off-putting.
Precisely why I said that he should do it for himself because it is fun. It’s also why I consider it third date material. Not something you bring up spontaneously, but more that they’ve come back to your apartment and see the photo hanging on your fridge. A casual introduction to it, not forced. It’s hanging on your fridge because it’s genuinely something you had fun doing, not because you wanted to use it to get women.
But, agreed, if the core of the reason for doing it is to attract women, it’s going to backfire spectacularly.
oop my bad, I wrote out my comment and then deleted my main point. I think you hit the nail on the head, my only differing opinion is that I think at this point, it’s really difficult to change the underlying reason that he’s doing it. At least for me, I wouldnt be able to just “turn off” the original intent of attracting women.
If I went ahead with the plan trying to tell myself, “Well originally it was about getting dates and impressing women, but now its just about having fun,” I feel like I’d still be subconsciously doing it for the female gaze. That’s why I say the jig is up – if I were him, I’d bag the idea and wait for next purely silly fun idea
I think you might be misunderstanding me. I don’t mean to say women aren’t attracted by silliness. I mean to say that a person who tries to be a certain way (can be silly, serious, whatever) because they think it will attract a mate is less attractive, especially compared with than a person who is just a certain way because that’s how they are.
Being your true self is more attractive than trying to be act in a way that you think will attract someone, yknow?
But I agree with you (although I’m a man), silly is attractive. But being silly with the express intent of impressing potential romantic partners? Way less attractive
Dating website: probably way too soon to share, just looks cringe
You might be right in this case, but I also want to point out that most dating profile fucking suck, and it’s not because they are too “cringe” or immature; it’s because they are all the same generic pictures. Wedding, gym, hiking, dead-fish, bar, dog.
I think it could work great on a dating profile. It’s unique, memorable, and a conversation starter for the apps that require comments when liking
Maybe not as the first image, but anywhere else. Pair it with a witty caption
if you go around showing it to girls expecting a date you’ll be disappointed.
i think filtering out the kinds of people who would be offended/icked by this (e.g. on a dating site profile) is probably a benefit. i can’t fuck someone i can’t laugh with.
Do it if it means you have a good time and you get a funny picture afterwards
Plus most girls I know would actually like a guy who’s not afraid of not being “nonchalant”. I think if a girl you show this picture to is turned off by it, it’s a dodged bullet for a materialistic/superficial relationship anyways.
If I acted in any besides just me being me, I wouldn’t be married today. Never pretend to be someone you’re not, any friends you make then won’t be yours, they’ll be that phantom persons.
So what if it’s immature anyway? So are loads of things. And most of them are fun. You exist for your pleasure, not other people’s.
Signed, a 52 year old skateboarder that still watches Arthur and farts on his kids.
It would be immature. I thought that was the joke, tho? 🤷🏻♂️
If someone is turned off by checks notes having a sense of humor, they’re probably not worth your time anyway.
Many would find it stupid, but those people don’t share your sense of humor and you would never get along with them in the first place.
So go and put the picture, it will help weed out people you don’t want to waste your time with. You’ll only get those who either don’t mind or who actually think it’s funny too.
It’s totally immature.
If that’s something you think you’ll have fun doing, I fully recommend it!
You’re only young once, but you can be immature forever.
imho the worst thing you can do is worry about what other people think of your antics [provided you aren’t actually hurting anyone else]
One year we bought loud Christmas themed outfits and went to have our picture taken with Santa. But not just Santa, there were minature goats there too. We each held one. They are so stinkin adorable. We were 46? 47? It made our whole week.
That became our Christmas card. Everyone loved it.
Go get your picture made. Your sister is a wet blanket that seems to still get embarrassed easily.
Especially if they don't take themselves oversly seriously.
Be your goofy self, if people are turned off by that you would never be happy with them anyway.
I take immature as a compliment here.
What do you want, a boring picture driven by society expectations, adulthood stress and other people’s pressures. Or a fun picture idea that came from a mind still able to be creative.
It’s immature and you should do it.
You have to get older, but you don’t have to grow up. Do the fun shit in life that hurts nobody. This place hasn’t been so that great over the last decade, so you got to find joys in this life.
I’m mid thirties and when the opportunity presents itself, I’ll look a fool for my own and other’s entertainment. Have a laugh, enjoy yourself, don’t negatively affect others with your fun, and don’t worry about what other people think of you.
our pictures taken with the Easter bunny while wearing overalls and a propeller hat. my sister says it’ll be immature
Is it a real question?
if I were to show a girl they would immediately be turned off.
I wouldn’t use the photo as your opening gambit, but in an album of similar photos it’s a positive, not a negative.
Will it be funny you think? Do it.
What kind of girl do you want to attract anyway? Do you want a full l girl that thinks that kind of stuff is funny or do you want a girl that finds it immature?
If a woman i wanted to date didn’t find me funny when i do goofy shit, then she would quickly become a woman i dont want to date.
I can be immature without that being my whole personality. I am mature when it’s appropriate and immature when it’s appropriate.
Just be yourself. You dont want to lock it all away to be in a relationship with someone who can’t laugh at a well-timed fart.
The world needs more silliness and whimsy. Don’t be afraid to be cringe, you will be free.
You also have an obligation to share the image when you take it.
The Guardian does an occasional feature called Flashback, where a celebrity recreates a childhood photo. It’s a bit of fun! You have my permission to go right ahead. A sense of humour is very attractive.
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