In my younger life there was an older man who I spoke with quite a bit, an acquaintance

He spent about 5 years married to his first wife, who died.

He spent the next 30 years in relationships constantly pining over what could have been, never satisfied

Finally he turned 60 and his 4th wife got sick of him and divorced him

He was sad and lonely for 15 years after that, constantly sad about what could have been with his last wife, lost and not understanding why she left.

He’s married again now, at 75, and still talks about his prior wife.

Contentment is not found in relationships, it comes from within, and bubbles up to whatever situation you find yourself in. Don’t fall for the lie that you are a failure without a significant other.

But I am. I’ve never ANYONE. No kiddie romance, no middle school crush or first girlfriend, no sex life, nothing. That dude is going to die but at least his life had a meaning and fulfilled his purpose. He can complain all he wants, he did his “thing” married, got kids and so on…

I’m zero on that.