In the last 48 hours, I’ve fallen down a YouTube rabbit hole of listening to drama-filled Reddit stories, mostly about infidelity. I’ve realized that via empathy, I’ve developed high stress and anxiety levels, but I just can’t stop. Help!
Also I see now how people get into soap operas. All the drama, none of the realism, less likely to trigger empathy overload.
If you are good person with conscience in a functioning marriage, let me make a suggestion. I think the surest inoculation for temptation to cheat is to listen to 10 stories of betrayed partners bearing their disbelief & pain, then 10 more from unfaithful partners with updates from they initially expect minimal consequences, to final stage facing the horror of realizing how badly they’ve hurt their spouse, & seeing their marriage likely over.
I've read too many Reddit stories where someone is taken down by the psychic pain of learning a 10+ year old secret their spouse kept from before they married. Let me blather into the void for a minute.
No, it's NOT ancient history for the person just learning today; it's fresh & raw. And your 10+ years of lying continued right up until your spouse found out. The secret was compounded many times by the betrayal of trust.
Come clean BEFORE marriage.
Scott Miller 🇺🇦 🇺🇸