Ok, hear me out, super supportive, but I had an issue when a friend’s husband wanted me to use “their.”

Don’t use it then.

The only time you would ever need to use someone’s pronouns is when they’re not part of the conversation anyway.

I couldn’t care less what people refer to me as if I’m not there.

The only time you would ever need to use someone’s pronouns is when they’re not part of the conversation anyway.

no? it would be weird to use in a one-on-one conversation, true. but it is fairly common to use the third person pronoun of someone during a group conversation, even while they are there

it is fairly common to use the third person pronoun of someone during a group conversation, even while they are there

But is improper to do so. The proper way to refer to a person who is present is by using their name.

maybe i have never been in proper situations, then, because in my experience, people will use pronouns or names indistinctly