I really like plain language descriptions of kink. Actually explaining shit is SO gd important.

I s2g I am fucking incensed when I look up “hey, literally wtf. I am sexual and I do not understand asexual kink” or whatever.

But the search results I get back are written by fucking doms who effectively write to make the reader their non-consenting sub??

Like. Just fucking explain your gd answer or fuck off.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F8i4wy30-go

Anyway.

#vNSFW

So… so, like… what *is* subspace?

Mentally stimulating improv to… embody clear instructions from someone in an intimate way — but not necessarily foreplay or sexual?

Like. Maybe this is allosexual BS but I’m genuinely struggling to understand how kink is non sexual.

I’m sure it can be!
I’m probably just not practiced in even trying, but I think I understand how cis het NTs feel.

I tend to say:
gender is about your experience of gender (shared construction of group identity? As it relates to methodology…?) and
sexuality is about your experience of wanting to do things with other people’s gender.
(Like to me, that’s really gd clear, obvious, and nigh incontrovertible.
IDEK how to break it down further.)

But like, subspace is a… flow state you feel on behalf of someone else’s directives?
Oh! Like being a hivemind or synchronised performance!

#vNSFW #kink #KinkCommunity #BDSM #bondage #submissive

https://www.queerhealth.info/lbgt/kink

https://aspecc.ca/kink-bdsm-and-autism-adhd/

https://www.autlives.com/kink-and-bdsm

https://www.johnpendal.com/uploads/2/0/4/4/20442863/autism_and_kink_-_handout.pdf

https://autismspectrumnews.org/navigating-sex-as-an-autistic-adult/

https://www.autlives.com/kink-and-bdsm Especially!

But also https://durham-repository.worktribe.com/OutputFile/1177529

https://scholarworks.gvsu.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1107&context=ought

#vNSFW

@internet_ryan Happy to help! :D

I’m always hanging off my partner. I’d be physically against him like an angry blanket all the damn time if it were remotely feasible.

Best advice I ever got was from other autistic people tbh.
Family were prudish freaks and I grew up surrounded by americans,
so I physically could not force myself to say the word ‘masturbation’ out loud until around 22 y.o. or so.

Ohh!! Good source I only found recently https://www.youtube.com/@Trash-Garbage-Trash

@MxVerda Go team angry blanket!

Growing up repressed: felt, and it sucks.

Appreciate the additional link.