The critical params: single row, 2.54 pitch, straight, thru-hole
- header: mating len: 4.5mm, contact len: 3.0mm
- socket: insulation len: 5.0mm, contact len: 3.0mm
@todbot Samtec are my go-to for that sort of thing, particularly the configurability.
@huffeec and I went mildly insane getting our head around how configurable their standoff headers are when we were fine-tuning the version for @museuminabox
https://www.toby.co.uk/board-to-board-pcb-connectors/ is often a good starting point to get to roughly what you want. We ended up dealing direct with Samtec, who were happy to ship us 100 of the options we wanted (not sure if they even have an MOQ)
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