Came across this elsewhere, and it seems a good reminder of how the Civil Rights fight was actually won.

Successfully fighting for civil rights requires multiple parallel strategies, *and those "lanes" can't overlap*. Someone who's protecting people, for instance, needs to be squeaky clean, legally, so the baddies don't have a pretext to come after them and the people they're protecting--which means they can't be showing up to disruptive protests in person.

When someone who's striving for the same things you're striving for, but doing so in a way that doesn't seem to make sense to you, consider that they may be in a very different lane than you are, and that they need to stay in that lane to do their part for the struggle.

My lane is Protecting People. I work to empower, educate, and protect trans folks from the dangers we all face, which is why I've historically tried to focus on trans science and empowerment in my writing, and why I'm going to be doubling down on that approach going forward.

It's not that I don't see the political realities. I very much do. It's not that I don't believe in our ends, or that I don't believe in the power of protest. I EXTREMELY do.

But those protesters need rest and rhetorical ammunition for their part of the fight. I can give that to them.

The folks inside those civic institutions, who are resisting oppressive laws and fighting to expand our freedoms, need external justifications to represent themselves as reasonable dealmakers who can speak for the community. I can give that to them.

These are just a couple of examples, by the way. There's lots more that people in each lane need and can benefit from in the other 3.

This is why it's critical for us to not eat our own. This is what it means to build community.

None of us wins alone.

Identify your lane. Identify what you need people in other lanes to do to bolster you, and how your acts can bolster them.

If you're clean hands (protectors & institutionalists), *keep your hands clean*. If you're dirty hands (disruptors and organizers), *don't drag people in other lanes into your work unless they step forward*.

We need all four lanes to win.

@Impossible_PhD
People need to drop allegiance to purity.

I will criticize someone one moment, and the next champion and defend them.

We can't afford to lose anyone.

@Wendy @Impossible_PhD yes, AND (half formed thought) more people need to learn skills for coexisting in a movement with folks they don't totally agree with, and who don't totally agree with them. I think those skills come in time, or can, but the internet is great at providing echo chambers for what is essentially social immaturity.

@ruthan
Got any links or zines? beyond Neurodivergent Insights https://neurodivergentinsights.com/blog idk where might cover "flexible goal-focused communication with people in a tentative alliance" or similar

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@MxVerda @Wendy @Impossible_PhD not yet (this was just me making an observation/conjecture) so thank you for this one! I'll keep an eye out.