They don’t understand that the planning and setting expectations is what enables me to have fun.

Are you my wife? She really has to know all the minutae of the flow before deciding whether it’s worth going with.

Bro we could use that in our group, we are at the point every few weeks someone says we should meetup and do something and we all say “yeah!” then nothing until a few weeks later someone else suggests we do something.

“Who’s going?”

“How many people will be there?”

“How far of a drive is it?”

“What’s parking like?”

“How expensive is it there?”

These are all very important questions.

Holy shit, I fucking love this 😂

I’m sending this to anyone I’m making plans with for the rest of eternity

The 4W of planning an event: What, Where, When*, Who. We instinctly answer these automatically when making a calendar event.

Once this is settled, you can elaborate on the How.

Friend: Brings up really cool idea for something to do Me: Awesome! When do you wanna do it? Friend: blank stare uhhh, I’ll have to figure it out, this week isn’t good

EVERY TIME

Yeah, but you always have tissues and mints and make sure the others join the conversation and that time you paid for my car to get towed. Won’t ever forget it.

Do a little research in advance to answer one of those questions yourself, and then send a message with that, and the rest of the questions. It takes pressure off the next person to send a message, since you’ve already done 1/4 of the planning, they won’t feel like they’re going to end up “in charge”. And once one person responds, it’ll flow more naturally into a conversation, as the stakes are lower for each new person joining in.

Something like, “It sounds like they don’t take reservations. We wanna show up as we can, or meet up first?”

I prefer to contribute nothing then pull out last min at the slightest inconvenience.

"Anyone finna give me a lift? Offloads all those concerns to someone else and I no longer feel guilty about that

Executive dysfunction go brrr

i bring a real “i dont go anywhere, or like being in public, stop asking me to join you or meet you in places i do not like, also i prefer staying at home” energy to the party that nobody likes to any degree.

I always worry about parking. Getting towed is a hassle.