Parents won't stop talking about friends' appearances
A number of my (M26) friends are women. I’m travelling and my parents want me to send them pictures, but I can’t send them a single picture with a girl next to me without her becoming my girlfriend in their eyes. I do fine for myself too! Actual girlfriends come and go and I tell them when I’m dating someone, and they hardly seem to care. Kills me dude.
Are they the sort of parents who, in a friendly way, know calling these women your girlfriend bothers you so they like to poke and make fun?
Nice to have parents who care ☺️
editn- this was supposed to be a friendly light hearted comment. No idea what happened
No I think they’re just old-fashioned. My parents waited a while to have kids; they’re in their 60s/70s now, so a bit older than most people are probably imagining. I don’t think they actually believe a man and a woman can really be friends, so it’s like they’re trying to “call it” in a way.
I definitely wouldn’t trade it for parents who didn’t give a damn about what I was doing, at any rate. I guess I just wish they were a little more interested in what I’m doing and less interested in who I’m with is all.
Thanks for the comment/perspective. Not sure what’s up with the downvotes on yours in particular.
Take a picture with many women and let them guess.
Then explain to them what a harem is.
Next time they say something like this, respond with something like “if I’m dating someone, I’ll let you know. If you continue to assume things about my friends, or comment on their appearance, I’m going to stop sending you pictures.”
If you introduce your next girlfriend to them and they don’t seem to care, have an explicit sit-down conversation about it. Tell them how it makes you feel, point out the inconsistency, and tell them you’re going to stop introducing them if their behavior doesn’t change
They are just excited for you that you are traveling around and hanging out with people, and they love you so much that imagining you happy with this pretty girl as your girlfriend is overpowering
It is ok
I get why it bothers you, but out of all the sins a person’s parent can commit this one is pretty fuckin minor. Life is not forever, nor parents. I would let it go.
Too right.
My parents were all up in my business about my work, what I was doing, who I was seeing, and I felt smothered. Now I can see they just missed me and wanted to know about my life. Since we weren’t sitting around the table taking about our day the only way they could catch up was calling me. I didn’t realize how much their lives changed as I and my siblings moved out. All I could see was my future ahead, moving forward, out of the nest. Their entire lives and routines were being upended after 20 years.
They’re in their 80s now. Dad’s on the decline, I don’t think we’ll have him much longer. I hope OP can get some balance and perspective. Life is too short to hold into resentment
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