The Picard ManeuverBecause it takes slightly less mental energy to sit and stress than to do the thing.
Fushuan [he/him]Does it help of someone forces toy to do the thing or is is better to give time and space until you decide to do it? Asking for a friend.
The #1 thing that helps me is having a partner for whatever the thing is. If someone has the same goal as me, I will put 150% into getting it done.
But if the thing only benefits me? Well, then I’ll just go ahead and shoot myself right in the foot
Boy am I glad I’m not the only one. This describes me exactly. Having a partner nag me to get something done is like having a literal little devil on my shoulder and is often the motivation I need. Now with me and my own projects that she has no vested interest in, those sit and languish for days, weeks, months, years….
(this is not a flex AT ALL) I am selfless to a fault. I care so little about my needs in comparison to others’ and I hate it
I just finished a book called How to keep house while drowning by KC Davis. It’s written for people with ADHD, autism, ptsd, handicapped, etc. anyone with challenges to getting things done, and this is one of the big themes in it, basically how to be kind to yourself. But there are lots of angles and tips and topics in there. Even witten in short, easy to read chapters. Should check it out.