Depends what you mean by feminism if you mean feminism as equality for all then great.

If you mean feminism as you see a lot of today then maybe not. The fact you never see feminism calling out shitty, toxic female behaviour shows a lot of the picture is missing.

Holding up everything that lives under the feminism banner as infallible is dangerous. Plenty of low income white guys have been pushed aside for feminism and then told they have all this privilege for living in a place with no economic prospects and they are responsible for how the world was made before they were born.

if you see “feminists” excusing shitty behavior, call them the fuck out for it

bad feminists don’t excuse you inserting yourself into a conversation women are having about their lived experiences

I do. Then you normally get called sexist by other women.

Like I said you never see feminism, or almost never see, women accepting there is ever anything wrong with feminism. Women need to take more responsibility over shitty women’s behaviour.

women need to take responsibility over shitty women’s behavior.

absolutely the fuck not. and you wonder why you get called sexist lmao. 😭

But somehow men DO needs to take responsibility for shitty men’s behaviour…

no. men (and women) need to take responsibility for behavior that happens under patriarchy.

no one is ever individually responsible for the actions of another individual. but we are all responsible to protect and look out for each other.

it’s a subtle difference but so, so important, so please read a couple times to understand.

Wonder if some women abusing men is patriarchy.

Or if some women shaming men for not being masculine enough is patriarchy.

Or if some women asking for some sort of benefits over men is patriarchy.

If yes, the scope of “patriarchy” is so damn wide any reference to men (as in “patri-”) would be fair to be removed, and then we’d talk about antisexism in general.

Besides, can we truly talk for the case of patriarchy when the oppression comes from previous generations of men leading to issues of currently living ones? Current men are often oppressed by those measures, not empowered, and that contradicts the very notion of it.

I’m always a bit confused by this desire of women to put entire antisexism movement under the feminism umbrella no matter what.

Why is it so important? What causes this desire for women alone to lead the way? Is it some sort of power struggle, fear of men stealing the topic and pushing another agenda?

We are here, and we recognize the issues of men and, to the extent we can, the issues of women. Let us fight our fight without trying to make it about women. We talk about men, and would be happy to have a community of both men and women to solve what can’t be solved on one side.

Wonder if some women abusing men is patriarchy.

Often true, yes.

Or if some women shaming men for not being masculine enough is patriarchy.

Very often true, yes.

Or if some women asking for some sort of benefits over men is patriarchy.

I don’t know what you are referencing but probably?

If yes, the scope of “patriarchy” is so damn wide any reference to men (as in “patri-”) would be fair to be removed, and then we’d talk about antisexism in general.

You are absolutely free to do this. :)

Besides, can we truly talk for the case of patriarchy when the oppression comes from previous generations of men leading to issues of currently living ones? Current men are often oppressed by those measures, not empowered, and that contradicts the very notion of it.

You are definitely in the right here! And these stories are often underrepresented in feminist/antisexist spaces. There is a community for this if you were interested: [email protected]

I’m always a bit confused by this desire of women to put entire antisexism movement under the feminism umbrella no matter what.

I think it’s more of a tradition thing than anything. As in, feminism being the first antisexist theory, all other antisexist theories will find their historical roots in what feminists first described. But a valid insight.

Why is it so important? What causes this desire for women alone to lead the way? Is it some sort of power struggle, fear of men stealing the topic and pushing another agenda?

No, and this is where I encourage you to be careful. You are reading far too much into a name. See above again for what I believe is more of an occams razor explanation.

We are here, and we recognize the issues of men and, to the extent we can, the issues of women. Let us fight our fight without trying to make it about women. We talk about men, and would be happy to have a community of both men and women to solve what can’t be solved on one side.

Fully agree! I wish you the best in this and I’ll be there alongside you. ❤️