The same could be said the other way. “If not being called by your preferred pronoun is one of the most difficult things in your life… etc etc”.

Being misgendered constantly is a very difficult thing for trans people. Why wouldn’t it be?

because i don’t need another person’s consent or validation to be myself?

It’s not about consent or validation, it’s about being harassed. I’m not sure why that isn’t clear to you. Do you think trans people have an easy life?

me misgendering you is not harassment. i honestly don’t care and you shouldn’t either. people that want to die on that hill are wasting everyone’s time. move on. don’t engage with people who don’t take the time to respect your whatever.

Accidentally misgendering someone is not harassment.

Intentionally doing so is. Because that’s the whole point of intentionally doing so.

But accidentally misgendering someone is often considered paramount to taking part in the holocaust. I’m not mean, I’m just lazy, and I don’t want to talk on egg shells to make sure I accurately read someone’s gender correctly. You can only take some much unjustified vilification before you start to think “you know what? fuck you. I’m going to misgender you out of spite”.

Dude, don’t listen to bullshit propaganda. Actually talk to trans people and find out what they think.

I think I’ll just mind my business and not let anyone police my - checks notes- words

Expecting you to treat people with basic respect is not policing your words. Do you go around calling black people the negroes? I hope not. Is it because you think that’s extremely disrespectful? I hope so.

It doesn’t take much effort to spot black people. I know how to treat them with respect because that’s easy. Again, I’m just lazy a little spiteful. Sorry not sorry.

It’s really not the big effort you seem to think it is. If someone looks like a man to you, you refer to them with masculine pronouns and if they correct you, you apologize and go with the pronouns they prefer.

The point is that you don’t keep doing it when they tell you that you’re using the wrong pronouns.

meanwhile, i’ll be over here not caring what pronoun you use for me. see how easy that is?

Why do you think people should only care about what you care about and not care about the things you don’t care about?

You sound like you come from a position of privilege and have not been treated with the maliciousness and even violence trans people have to deal with on a daily basis.

I suppose asking you to put yourself in their shoes would be too much?

The system I am actually trying to dismantle is what is oppressing these people, not me. I have my sights set on the big targets and find the trans movement to be a divisive distraction. I have sympathy but it’s not really my battle. My battle is one that affects all of us, not just some of us.

You are part of that system if you don’t give them the basic respect of self-identity they are due. If that is not part of your fight, you’re part of the problem.

I don’t agree with that but you’re entitled to your opinion.