HegarApr 9, 2024

What's the most interesting traditional or formal politeness behaviour or table manners in your culture? Or for any service personnel, in your restaurant?

I love all the ritualized behaviour, secret meanings and unexpected taboos - standing up when someone of higher status stands, elaborate rules for serving and eating, tapping the table to thank the server, never refuse a toast from a superior, stuff like that....

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I love all the ritualized behaviour, secret meanings and unexpected taboos - standing up when someone of higher status stands, elaborate rules for serving and eating, tapping the table to thank the server, never refuse a toast from a superior, stuff like that....

Show threadWaker

I feel like this is a global thing but here it goes When serving dinner the women are served first, then the men. They do this from oldest to youngest.

So, first person to get food/wine/water/wtv served is the oldest woman, and the last person to be served is the youngest man.

Apr 10, 2024 at 1:35amWeb
Show threadValmondApr 10, 2024
With invited people first where I live.
Show threadINHALE_VEGETABLESApr 10, 2024

Global

Prioritising women

That’s a hard no from me dawg

Show threadblackn1ghtApr 10, 2024
We don’t do that here (UK), there’s no order in which people are served their food. It doesn’t really matter, as it’s “polite” here to only start once everyone has got their food.
Show threadlivusApr 10, 2024

I think it might depend on the level of formality; pretty sure in very formal British ettiquette it goes clockwise from the person to the right of the host.

I don't really understand how they would be able to know the age of everyone like @Waker describes though.

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Show threadWakerApr 14, 2024

No one is going to behead you if you get the ages wrong for some reason.

But as you said, it’s only done in very very formal situations. Usually army/navy/airforce dinners and such. You almost never see it anywhere else.

Show threadlivusApr 14, 2024
Interesting! What part of the world do you live in, if you don't mind me asking?
Show threadWakerApr 14, 2024
Portugal
Show threadlivusApr 14, 2024
Thanks, this is good to know!