how you know I'm ADHD without telling you
how you know I'm ADHD without telling you
I’ve got it down to a science so I can procrastinate until the night before:
I like to travel as light as I can and most of my trips are for a week or less, so oftentimes the only thing I need for luggage is a single carryon bag
Tf you only brush your teeth every 3 days??
“procrastination” can be seen as avoiding tasks, but IMO we need a different word to describe it for tasks you want to do (which eventually get done) and those you don’t (which may not).
seems to me capitalists favor using that word for the former case as an explanation of why people with ADHD take so long to do tasks; they want us to see mental and emotional pre-processing as “wasted time”
I would recommend researching the terms “executive dysfunction” and “demand avoidance”.
Demand avoidance is not the same as pathological demand avoidance, which is a Autistic profile type, but maybe for fun look into that too!
This is the way.
I just keep one huge checklist that I document everything I ever pack to and start by checking off everything I’m not taking on my current trip. Then the rest of the list is enough to make sure I am properly packed.
That’s a bit like me, definitely like me for some specific tasks, not packing specifically, but as a ratio it’s very similar to my attitude towards packing, doing homework/assignments, preparing for job interviews, preparing for any important impactful life moments with the key difference between the label for the yellow section. For me in those scenarios, including packing, the yellow section represents time spent mentally avoiding the stress and anxiety that comes from mentally preparing for packing or anything else unpleasant by suddenly getting very interested in a random topic and reading all about it, or playing a specific videogame to absolutely ridiculous excess, or watching every episode of a long running series from at least 20 years ago.
It’s especially shitty because to the outsider, this looks like laziness, and that’s not wrong, I mean it’s much easier and more pleasurable to do that stuff than the hard thing you should be doing, but I’m not really enjoying that stuff because I’m doing it hard. It might sound impossible to watch a TV series hard, but it’s kind of like. heart racing extreme form of mental concentration to absolutely fully and completely consume my mind with anything except the source of stress. So it looks like I’m watching TV and laughing at the jokes and I am, but I’m also simultaneously really stressed and tired from expending so much mental energy in to blocking everything else out. Truly a fantastic skill since I’m able to achieve precisely nothing, still get really tired, look like I didn’t do anything that would break a sweat at all and still feel like shit and completely stressed by the end.
I appreciate your honesty, I can relate b/c I’ve been there at points in my life too, including the weed.
three things helped me kick/reduce all those habits:
I can recommend a book called Don’t Believe Everything You Think, it’s a short & easy read that reminds you why it’s good to be in the present & that all the answers you need are already within you if you’re honest enough with yourself to ask & answer those questions. good luck!