@hollie Oh my god, this is such a huge disconnect that is so incredibly frustrating with how people design social software, and the material needs of the people who use it.

Being constantly exposed to the world is a *luxury* and building around design assumptions that everyone *can* and *should* be constantly connected to everyone everywhere is just... it's such a fucking techbro mindset.

Privacy is integral to living a life, and fedi seems to be built specifically to impede private spaces.

@katanova Yeah I think as I'm learning more about this there is really a disconnect between the skillset and headspace of designing the social software, and that of using it. And I think I have naively assumed for a long time that it'd be obvious, but it isn't at all.

The being watched thing is a big deal - that was also mentioned by several folks, that the fediverse can seem challenging when you're new and can't tell where your posts are actually going. I feel that should be a discussion too.

@hollie I feel like recognizing this is the central hurdle of integrating tech into the world in a way that makes our lives better instead of worse.

It's *incredibly* important for people in positions of power and authority to recognize that, as architects making decisions about how people live, they are mirroring dynamics of social failure if they fail to comprehend the actual material impacts of their decisions on other people *beyond* face value.

@hollie Mastodon's admin interface centers around face-value metrics.

New users, user retention, how many other servers are federated with.

These metrics are often interpreted as a *replacement* for actual social analysis.

The Instance is Healthy because Engagement is High, and Retention is High.

When what those metrics most closely measure is level of addiction.