@lightninhopkins @gwensnyder it is worth exploring, but it's very easy to be reductive about it. why would women see men as predators? should women be the ones to fix that problem, or could men be looking at how they could ameliorate that perception.
men are overrepresented in the victim statistics of violent crime. the perpetrators are also almost entirely male. men are not inherently more violent, so what factors are contributing to this? how can they be mitigated?

i apologise for my tone, i have had this discussion many times with many people and it is rarely constructive.

@lightninhopkins @gwensnyder hmm. with respect, i disagree.

not with your experience, raising boys is a nightmare, especially when you acknowledge the previous constraints. it's very difficult to usher boys into a world where they will have expectations placed upon them that you cannot control, nor even really prepare them for.

i disagree with your absolutism.

although to be perfectly honest, i am not a manly man, so we are really talking about totally different versions of masculinity, you are working under a series of constraints that causes dudes who dude like me to get called the eff slur for not dude-ing right, i am working with a version of masculinity that has never felt the need to prove to other dudes that i dude hard enough.

i understand that makes me the outsider in this discussion, and your concept of dating being something that gets your sons called out on tiktok because they opened a door for a girl is rooted in a reality that i cannot access.
DO NOT BE REDUCTIVE.

@lightninhopkins i would like to thank you for taking this conversation in a refreshing direction. this is very much a “HENRY CAVILL OPENS UP: I CAN'T SPEAK TO A WOMAN WITHOUT BEING ACCUSED OF SEXUAL ASSAULT” vibe.

i like this. it's fun to explore.
people read that type of headline and they pick one of two options.
1. famous man henry cavill is a woman-hating caveman
2. famous man henry cavill is being cancelled by the femenazis because he tried to open a door for a woman once, or maybe looked at boobs.

@lightninhopkins for fuck’s fucking sake. i swear, i have tried to continue this post three different times.

i beg your forebearance