I think i'm gonna start going by Ace again.

a friend pointed out that i change my name in hopes of a fresh start and an attempt to make everything go away

and i shouldn't do that. at all.

i should embrace that i made mistakes in the past, that i will still make mistakes in the present and future and do my own best to show that I am not those mistakes and i am a better person.

i'll be changing my usernames to reflect that

besides, who doesn't love Ace? it's such a unique name.

@artemis I would have to agree re: name changing.

Even the people I have seen% go ghost, lay low for a while, and then change thier names to hide accountability.... I think eventually people figure them out. I don't think it's good to rely on a name change to give you that mental feeling of a fresh new start.

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@Catwoman69y2k trust me, i didn't disagre when the friend said ths.

I've been admittedly struggling with it this entire time and just didn't want to admit to myself.

so now i'm sitting down and thinking about everyting about myself--species, etc. and just letting what come come. if people reject me then they reject me, if they accept me and follow me then that's fine too.

@artemis Yeah. There is nothing that stops you from being yourself other than yourself....and letting other people cow you from being yourself