I don’t want to invoke any negative memories but my curiosity is unsatisfied - what the hell do these guys PMed you about? We’re all anonymous on Lemmy and Reddit, nobody knows how we look or where are we from and yet publicly stating your own gender is enough to open the floodgates. It is baffling to me. Don’t feel obliged to answer of course if that’s a problem.

Going back to the topic - hello! I used today’s running routine excuse to treat myself with some sweet snacks. Unfortunately I didn’t pick the best ones so I’m left unsatisfied and with a thought that I exceeded my limit. Next time I guess.

Not a woman, but still: hello, welcome, 👋

It’s a shame a lot of women still feel the need to hide in order to avoid bad interactions online. You’d think we’d have gotten past that phase by now. After all, half the folks on this planet are women. And since it isn’t 1992 anymore, girls are in fact allowed on the internet.

Hiding perpetuates that stereotype, but I understand why they do it.

Welcome to the Fediverse!

Indeed, people are quite a bit more welcoming here than Reddit - ofc not everywhere, but more so, on average. If it helps, you can block not only individual users communities, but even whole entire instances - the latter by going into your profile, scrolling way down, and adding the instance name to that list. Do what you want, but for me, when TENS of people continue to spam-reply me WEEKS after I STOP responding, that’s the signal that they are refusing to control themselves, so I take matters into my own hands and block them. For that reason I blocked hexbear and lemmygrad.ml, and some people block lemmy.ml too but I do enjoy their memes and such and just stay out of their politics community so I have not gone that far for that one. If this describes you, note that this can improve your experience in the Fediverse by perhaps 90% so may be WORTH IT. People from those instances can still reply to your posts and comments, but you will not receive notifications anymore, nor see them while you are logged in:-).

One thing more I wanted to make sure that you and your friends know: DMs are not private. I don’t know of any actual tools that makes reading someone’s DMs possible, but the signals are out there and not only admins but anyone could, in theory. Probably that won’t matter 99% of the time but e.g. sending physical addresses or phone numbers would be easy to scan for across the Fediverse by malicious actors.

Anyway, I hope you feel welcomed! (fwiw, I am not a woman, I just wanted to share these thoughts in case they would be helpful:-)

There are dozens of us! But seriously I’ve been so happy to be a lady on here and have good conversations with damn near everyone. As for treating myself, I am looking forward to my husband cooking us a nice dinner this weekend.

Happy International Women’s Day to everyone! I volunteered at an IWD event this week and it was really encouraging and always eye opening. Many of us feeling imposter syndrome in our work and this ever-gnawing anxiety about the direction things are headed but just sharing and witnessing the courage out there was inspiring. We are out here and you are not alone!

Thanks for reaching in! I am just going to celebrate by taking care of myself this weekend, sleeping in as best I can, squeezing my cat, getting a massage, taking a walk, and planning out my balcony garden ideas for this year.

Hello! Not a woman, but from what I’ve heard I understand the hiding. Frankly the men that do that sort of thing need a kick up the arse and I will never understand what it’s supposed to achieve.

Cheers ladies!

I’m celebrating today by doing my nails and then running around killing everyone in my current game, with a tiny splash of Friday-level work squeezed in for the fun of it! ☺️

Well hey hey hey! Always happy to see other women here. Have a great women’s day!

Hello and Happy International Women’s Day! I hope yours is going awesome, and your day off work is hella restful! Although, gamedev defo sounds like work to me!

I too am a lady type on the internet! I’ve never really hidden that though as I grew up a HELLA nerdy Millenial. I’ve had the internet in my hizzy since grade school and I cut my teeth on things like HarryPotter.com and GaiaOnline. Cutesy nerdy spaces. However, on the anonymous spaces, people assume I’m a dude on the reg. I usually just let it go. It’s likely why I haven’t experienced the toxicity to the same level that other ladies unfortunately have.

That being said, this weekend I’m hoping to be productive as hell with some yard work, and chilling out with some Cyberpunk as it’s my latest obsession. And I’m definitely not cooking tonight!

Because I’m food motivated though…whatchu thinking about for take out?

I like the redditish format but I wish there was more compartmentalization, privacy and anonymity features on lemmy. there is no reason why anyone should be able to see all you do on here. it doesn’t add anything, it only takes away. Except for maybe the people that only post art or something.

Hello! May I ask what/what type of game your working on? All of your posts are about knitting so I really couldn’t guess (if you’re not making a game about knitting), but it’s always fun to hear.

• not a woman, just a random teen

Also, congratulations on international women’s day 😀

Hiya! Happy International Women’s Day! I recently got back from a long break from Lemmy, and really most other social media too, but my experience on here has been pretty good too. Generally I’d say it feels more friendly and positive than I remember Reddit feeling, and with generally more productive conversations in my experience.

And yeah we’ll probably just order in later too. I’ve been a bit sick lately so probably not much else

Happy International Women’s Day, from a fellow woman on the internet. I honestly didn’t even realize that was today, my life has been a complete mess lately. I’m sorry you’ve gotten gross messages online, I like to joke that I’m so unattractive and unlovable that even online no one bothers me 😂

Don't leave us hanging like that, what kind of game are you developing?

I never felt weird posting to Reddit that I was a woman, and never got any weird dms or anything… no clue why, just luck I suppose. Or could have to do with where/how I shared that info… either way I was openly asexually female for the entire 5 years I had an actual account. Worst that happened was a bit of banter with a user about whether or not boobs float (something I honestly don’t know); they told me to go check and report back and I said their man boobs would be more likely than mine to float since I’m thin and not well endowed.

But I’ve been more vocal about it here because Lemmy is an absolute sausage party, and it’s so so so so obvious. It hasn’t been weird here at all either, but there also aren’t a lot of conversations in which I feel it necessary to divulge (probably because it’s a sausage party, so those sorts of conversations don’t happen as much)

I wasn’t using that as a treat myself excuse, but I’m shopping for a fancy new bed frame (with headboard storage, power strip, lights, and drawers underneath to keep my cats out) and it was gunna be a birthday gift to myself, but now it’s a women’s day/birthday gift 🤭

Heyo! I had no idea it was International Women’s Day until my trainer told me this morning. My husband just left for a weekend trip so it’s just me and the doggo tonight. I’m going to make a marsala and probably watch a bunch of Doctor Who.

Happy International Women’s Day!

hi :3