ballywogFeb 10, 2024

There needs to be a remedial kindergarten class for adults who still don't know that is is rude to continually stare at people.

https://lemmy.world/post/11791550

There needs to be a remedial kindergarten class for adults who still don't know that is is rude to continually stare at people. - Lemmy.World

I do not like to be stared at. Yes, I know that is my problem and I should not expect the rest of the world to conform to my issue. There, happy? Everytime you complain nowadays people want to tell you “maybe the issue is you and you should not expect the rest of society to adjust to your issues”. There I said it for you…can we continue? However, there are some adults that will just look and look and look at you when you enter a room and it’s nonsense. There’s nothing new under the sun. I want to ask them, “Have you never seen a human being before?” I am a dude. I imagine this is 1 million times worse for women. Staring in public, waiting your turn in line, maintaining a normal talking volume in public. I think I learned all that in kindergarten or before. Some adults need to Billy Madison themselves and go back to kindergarten.

Show threadPotentialProblemFeb 10, 2024

I feel like there’s more to this story. My experience is US centric, but it’s considered very rude to stare at people… and I can’t imagine why anyone would tell you “maybe the issue is you” when you complained about folks staring at you.

I will say that a large number of guys don’t realize how obvious they are when checking out someone they’re attracted to.

Show threadballywogFeb 10, 2024

I can’t imagine why anyone would tell you “maybe the issue is you” when you complained

It’s very common for people to tell you that you are the issue when you complain. They do this because then it requires no effort on their part to change their behavior. They just volley the ball back into your court and tell you, “Uh, did you ever think that the issue is with you?” and “Don’t expect society to bend over backwards to adjust to your little issues” Once they say that they are guilt free they can continue on behaving as they choose because in their mind the issue is with you and not them.

Have you not experienced this? It’s very common now.

I feel like there’s more to this story.

Sorry, there’s not more to the story. People stare for uncomfortable amounts of time. Also, you stating that “there’s more to the story” is you doing a form of what I described above…which is pushing back on the person complaining and not on the underlying rude behavior.

Show threadMario_Dies.wavFeb 10, 2024

Sorry, there’s not more to the story

Oh boy, this is the other thing people do lately, isn’t it? I’m sorry to get sidetracked, but I think they want so badly for something interesting to happen that they imagine there must be some big reveal or twist behind any story.

You could give certain people a detailed and graphic breakdown of one of Jeffrey Dahmer’s murders, and they’d be like, “Well, we haven’t heard the full context. I don’t want to pass judgment.”

Show threadSuspiciousbrowsingFeb 10, 2024

Sorry, there's more to the story

Nah I'm on this guy's side. I think there needs to be more context. In most western countries it's generally rude to stare. So is OP walking in to lectures late, is he farting loud as he's walking, does he perceive a glance as staring too long.. or actually do people in his area just stare too much ?
Further context is warranted to paint the picture.

Show threadagent_flounderFeb 10, 2024

Maybe OP is hot af. Like, I’m > 99% straight but even I would stare if certain movie star looking dudes walked in.

As an engineer type I see everything as a problem to solve so naturally I also want to troubleshoot right now, as you illustrate.

Show threadballywog

Maybe OP is hot af.

Upvoted just for being funny! Ha! Also, just a normal looking dude.

Feb 10, 2024 at 5:14pmWeb